Thursday, December 22, 2011

Blogging: Why do it?

Haven't blogged in a while because I found myself . . .
Worrying about what I was going to write.
Wondering if it was important enough to share.
Questioning my motivations for blogging.

Life has been full, maybe too full and blogging was one of those things I could put on hold while I sorted out my thoughts.

Blogging is good for me. It helps me communicate my thoughts and often I develop a greater personal understanding in the process. I share this with others, because I hope and pray that something touches your life and encourages you.

Blessings -

Wednesday, September 28, 2011

Why did my mom not keep me?

It's hard to believe it's been 6 years since we were in China. Allie, is the oldest of the Tongling 12 and she turned 8 on September 20. Tomorrow, Sept 29, is the day that she was found. I think about her birth mom a lot this time of year.

We have had some interesting conversations about our family. One day Allie asked questions about her older siblings (age 31 and 27). She asked, "what is a step sister?" I explained that she and her older sister, Sarah, have the same dad but a different mom. Allie was quiet than asked, "Do I have a step-mom in China?" I replied, "No, you have a biological mom in China." We talked about how Jeff, our 11 year son, grew in my tummy; but Allie do not grow in my tummy.

Then she asked the kicker. . . "Why did my mom not keep me?" WOW

I paused and said, "I don't know...I believe that she loved you very much, but maybe she couldn't take care of you."

Then I told her story about another mom who loved her baby boy very much, but the government was trying to hurt the little boy. The mom, and the boy's bigger sister did what they could to protect the little guy, but the mom eventually let another family raise and care for her son, so that he was safe. That little boy was named Moses.

My husband does a lot of teasing in our family. One day, Allie teasingly called me, "My not real mom." I laughed at her and responded back, "yes, my real daughter!" She giggled and smiled.

She's beginning to grasp the concept of adoption.
Just interesting conversations that often leave me "pondering things in my heart!"

Monday, August 8, 2011

Is Forgiveness Conditional or Free?

Sometimes a particular piece of scripture makes me uncomfortable.

Like in Matthew 6.14-15 where Jesus says, “If you forgive others, then God will forgive you, but if you don’t forgive others then God won’t forgive you.” I could not reconcile this verse with the other one in 1 John 1.9 that says, “If we confess our sins then God is faithful to forgive all your sins.” One passage seems to be very conditional, God may or may not forgive my sins, the “forgiveness” depends on me. The other passage promises that God will forgive all my sins.

After years of holding these two scriptures in “tension” the Spirit gave me a new perspective and insight. (NOTE: this is one role of the Holy Spirit, to teach and guide me)

God’s forgiveness is ALWAYS available to me. Yes, I need to repent and confess my sin, those actions are required of me. However the extent to which I receive God’s forgiveness is dependent upon me.

If I can or only allow myself to give small portions of forgiveness to my family, co-workers, friends, then that is all the forgiveness I can receive and experience from God the Father.

On the other hand, the more forgiveness I am able to receive from God – meaning I am able to receive his tender love and grace and forgiveness for myself and not beat myself up – the more grace and forgiveness I am compelled (able, willing and wanting) to give to others.

It is a cycle. The more grace, love and forgiveness I receive the more grace, love and forgiveness I am able to give; thereby increasing my own ability to receive even more grace, love and forgiveness from God the Father.

Sunday, July 31, 2011

wwKids Art & Drama Camp

Just had the best week at Westwinds Church.

My very creative, talented and dedicated team created an awesome Art & Drama Camp experience for the kids. We exceeded our registration goal; 60% of the kids were from Westwinds and 40% of the kids were from the community: and we extended the camp to include preschoolers through 6th grade. Over 200 people came to see the camp's final performance of our 60 kids.

Our kids designed and painted imaginary landscapes and then colored, cut and beaded their own unique camp t-shirts, then had their friends and counselors sign the shirt. Our kids memorized an original song, written by Chad Cecil, called "Love, Joy, Peace & Self-control." Our kids experienced first hand how movies can be used to learn about God. Then they sang and danced.

Our student leaders worked hard and loved on little kids. One day I looked out the window and saw my 11-year old son, along with my 19-year old nephew playing "duck, duck, goose" with a bunch of preschoolers.

Below is a short animoto of the kids. Also on facebook's Westwinds Kids Journey there is a video recording of the performance.

Thanks again to my awesome wwKids leaders and volunteers. Love ya.

Sunday, July 24, 2011

Trust & Obey

Trust and obey (listen - the root word for obey is the word listen)

Trust & obey & trust

In quietness and peace . . . "My strength will come when you (Lori)
completely depend on Me, your Father" (Is. 30.15)


I do depend on You;
then I am fearful
then I try to take control.

Perfect LOVE casts out all FEAR

Your love washes over me -
refreshing
cleansing
removing deris and crap.
Leaving my "true self"

The TRUE Lori Ann
You created and designed and nurtured
and loved forth.

Help me continue to become that woman
SO THAT
I can be a blessing to others
and Shadow God; help heal the world; and build Your Church.


amen.

Sunday, June 5, 2011

Are Faeries for Real?

This spring I’ve been creating a “faerie garden” for my 7.5 year old daughter, Allie. It started off by cutting vines and pulling a ton of creeping, crawling ground cover. We’ve created several entry ways into the secret garden and a table made out of logs and a board. It’s becoming a secret hide away for Allie and I love to see and hear her play

As I worked in the faerie garden, Allie and I talked about what faerie liked and where they lived. We watched the Tinkerbell movie and built a faerie house out of an oatmeal container.

The other day while Allie and I were in the faerie garden she asked me, “Mom, are faeries for real?”

Whenever a kid asks me a great but tough question my first response is often affirming, “That is a great question!” My response buys me at least a few seconds to formulate some type of answer.

After a moment or two, I responded to Allie. “I believe in miracles. . . I believe that God does miracles and sometimes we are so busy that we don’t notice what He is doing. When you come back to your faerie garden and are quiet and pay attention, I think you will see things that other kids are too busy to notice like a faerie.”

The Spirit, part of the trinity, is present and working in “Mysterious Ways,” but often I am too busy to notice. If there is one gift I desire for my kids and our wwKids to learn, it is to pay attention - to notice, to be aware, to be still and quiet - so they can see and experience God presence.

Don’t be afraid when your kids ask tough questions about God or life. It’s OK to say that you don’t know the answer. Most of the times there are no right or wrong answers but it gives us an opportunity to share and teach what we do know, what we have personally experienced with God the Creator.

When Allie and I were in the faerie garden a bug was fluttering around. I noticed the movement of the wings and asked Allie, “What it that? Is that a moth or a butterfly?” She looked closely at the fluttering and said, “Mom, it could be a faerie!”

Monday, April 11, 2011

Silent Retreat III - What do I desire from God?

While every year the silent retreat experience is different there are some similarities. One common occurrence is that each retreat starts with the participants sharing what they desire to receive from God. My spoken desire for the weekend was the grace to “trust myself; to trust the Spirit working in and through me.” My spiritual director affirmed that my DESIRE for God, is his HOPE for me. The Spirit and I are in agreement. We are working towards the same thing. God is giving me the desires of my heart.

Monday, April 4, 2011

Silent Retreat II - Everyone needs to be silent

Mother Teresa says that silence is the language of God. Being silent is not about what type of personality you have. Being silent is a discipline that teaches you to listen. Again Mother Teresa says that “it is in the silence of the heart that God speaks. God is the friend of silence. . . we need to listen to God because it’s not what we say but what He says to us and through us that matters.” So years after my friend asked me, “Does everyone need to be silent?” my answer is no longer hesitant but rather a strong, confident, “Yes, everyone needs to be silent.” What that looks like will look different depending upon your season of life, but yes, everyone needs to be silent.

Saturday, April 2, 2011

Silent Retreat I




I attended my fifth silent retreat with eight other companions last weekend. We were at Victory Noll Center in Huntington, Indiana. While every year the experience is different there are some similarities.

Silence makes me willing; not willful. Silence makes me attentive. Silence helps remove distractions that interfere with me hearing God. Silence centers me and lets me catch glimpses of my true-self.

Once a friend shared that she just could NOT be silent. It wasn’t part of her makeup, she explained. Then she asked my opinion about “being silent,” did I think everyone needed to be silent? I hesitated with my answer, not wanting to be dogmatic, I replied, “I think everyone needs to find a way to be silent.”

Tuesday, March 22, 2011

It's all about me!

"Love can happen only in the realm of freedom. Without inner freedom on both sides there can be no true love relationship - only duty, fear or obligation. So it is all a matter of growing in freedom, which could be called 'growing in grace.' " R. Rohr

See, it really is "all about me."
It's about me and the work that Spirit does in me.
I can't change many of my circumstances;
I can't change or "fix" other people.

The only thing I can do is trust and believe that Spirit is working in me.

Spirit, you promise to remind me what I have been taught before.
Spirit, you promise to guide and lead me in righteousness.
Spirit, give me courage to trust and obey.
Let me fully accept the gift of the Father's LOVE and
experience the healing and freedom it brings.
Amen.

Thursday, March 10, 2011

What do you desire from God?

Yesterday was Ash Wednesday; it marked the beginning of Lent, the period of time before Easter.

What do I seek, what do I desire to receive from God during this time? A deepening confidence and courage in myself, not in my own abilities but in the Spirit’s work in me. I want to believe and live out the belief that God’s Spirit is working in me AND in those around me.


I love that the Spirit, that God loves each of us uniquely. I love how our spiritual journey is designed for each of us through the Spirit. When I am truly believing and trusting that God’s Spirit is working in each of us, I am less judgmental! I experience the fruit of the spirit - love, joy, peace, confidence.


For me, spiritual disciplines can become another way of legalism. I can desire that every day of Lent I will post a new blog entry. That sounds great and maybe even spiritual, but most likely I’ll become more self-absorbed, as I try to write something “inspiring” that most likely no one will read. So for me at this time in my life, I have found that there are a few disciplines that I must hold fast to.

I MUST get adequate rest. Not only am I not a good wife, mom, or follower of Jesus when I am tired but my spirit becomes critical. A critical spirit is dangerous for me; it’s a foothold for Satan. When I am tired, I do not think creatively. For me at this time in my life, rest/sleep is a key component to my spiritual walk.

I MUST have time alone with God. Where and how it happens is less important than making sure it happens. It can be early in the morning; it can alone in my car; or it can be walking outside. For a new mom, your alone time with God may be in the shower! Or it may be when you are holding your baby. As the weather changes, gardening will be another way that I spend time alone with God.

Enjoy the freedom you have to uniquely connect to God. What fits with your personality? what draws you closer to God?

Thursday, February 24, 2011

The fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control. Against such things there is no law. Galatians 5.22-23

Mother Teresa The Simple Path
The fruit of silence is PRAYER.
The fruit of prayer is FAITH.
The fruit of faith is LOVE.
The fruit of love is SERVICE.
The fruit of service is PEACE.

Our world will seek these attributes like they are a prize to be earned and won.

I want to be more loving, so I work at loving others or serving others.
I want to be more peaceful, so I mediate and strive to simplify my life style.
We don’t get these attributes as prizes but rather as a result of our relationship with the “perfect” human being – Jesus Christ. They are the by-product of our relationship with Jesus.

We seek Jesus,
we seek to know Him
we seek to follow Him more nearly
we seek to see Him more clearly
we seek to love Him more dearly . . . day by day (Ignatius)

We seek first the kingdom of God,
We seek first Jesus Christ and . . . all these things shall be added

Wednesday, February 23, 2011

I am inspired by others

"A true fellowship is a group of believers who by simply being together spur each other on to greater transformation." E.Stanley Jones.

I know that I have killed this quote hundreds of times, but the truth of this paraphrased explanation of fellowship rings so true in my life. I am inspired by those I rub shoulders with.

I am inspired by my friend, who is committed to having difficult conversations this year. She is no longer going to quietly/secretly disagree, but when appropriate she will lovingly share her perception/beliefs/views. I have had some hard conversations with individuals, because I was inspired by this friend.

I am inspired by another friend, who is purusing her dream. She made a vision poster of who she wants to become and where she wants to be professionally. Her courage, her vision, her hardwork and inspires me to pursue some creative outlets that I have set aside.

I am inspired by another friend, who is consistently puts family as the first priority in his life. Even though life is full of work, school, ministry, etc., his family is priority. I am a better wife and mom, just because I rub shoulders with this guy.

I am inspired by another friend, who is choses to see the best in everyone, because he recognizes the "image of God" in each person he encounters and celebrates that uniqueness. I am a better Jesus follower, just because I am in the presence of this person.

Today, I thank God for these friends and the other many other friends that touch and inspire me to grow closer to God.

Wednesday, February 9, 2011

Walking - again

The last couple of days the dog and I have walked out to the pond. It felt great to be outside, walking through 12 inches of snow. The sun was out but it was bitter cold. The dog just loved it. Jake would bury his nose in the snow, come up and shake his head. Overhead I saw the red-tail hawk, screeching as it soared over the fields to its nest in the tall pines.

So thankful that I can walk and get outside. Valentines Day of 2010 was the last time I walked at MacCready reserve. Maybe next week, I will adventure out again.

Tuesday, January 4, 2011

A New Season

A season of hope,
restoration & renewal

A season of faithfulness,
commitment to live honestly

A season of patient trust,
grace & gentleness, healing


All is gift,
All shall be well.

Monday, January 3, 2011

Unfamiliar Path - III

Barabara Brown Taylor: Leaving Church - a memoir of faith

Like every believer I know, my search for real life has led me through at least three distinct seasons of faith, not once or twice, but over and over again. Jesus called them finding life, losing life, and finding life again, with the paradoxical promise that finders will be losers while those who lose their lives for his sake will wind up finding them again.

In Greek the word is psyche, meaning not only "life" but also the conscious self, the personality, the soul. You do not have to die in order to discover the truth of this teaching, in other words. You only need to lose track of who you are, or who you thought you were suppose to be, so that you end up lying flat on the dirt floor basement of your heart.

Do this, Jesus says, and you will live.

Sunday, January 2, 2011

Unfamiliar Path - II

Back in August Dave told his African safari story where he learned to track wild animals. When he lost the animal's tracks Dave was ready to look for another set of tracks to follow. But Dave's teacher/mentor tracking guy said no, you follow the obvious path. Keep heading towards the watering hole, that's where all the animals will end up.

Even though my path is unfamiliar it doesn't mean I look for another path to follow. I am confident that this path leads me towards God. In the meantime however I will cling to the very basics of my faith. I will follow the obvious path.

Jesus loves me
this I know
for the Bible tells me so.
Little ones to Him belong
they are weak, but
He is strong.
Yes, Jesus loves me
Yes, Jesus loves me

Saturday, January 1, 2011

Unfamiliar Path

6 months of chronic pain - January - June
4 months of heavy pain meds - May, June, July, Aug/Dec
2 major surgeries - total hip replacements - July 7, 2010 & December 14, 2010
1 Doctorate of Ministry - May 9, 2010
1 father passed away - January 19,2010

At the end of 2010 I find myself on a very unfamiliar path of my journey. Spiritual disciplines that I have known and practiced seem out of reach, but I trust "the process." I trust that Spirit is present.
. . . "through the heartfelt mercies of my God
God's Sunrise will break in upon me;
shining on those in darkness
those sitting in the shadows of death,
then showing me the way, one foot at a time,
down the path of peace" Luke 1.78-79 msg

She is guiding me, one foot at a time, down the path of peace. I trust that this unfamiliar path over time, will draw me closer to the Heart of God.